Switching and Soapboxing

Yes, yes, I have something to talk about! I'm pretty shocked myself. I should have addressed this subject earlier but I kept fighting myself on my feelings about it. In short, switching isn't something I hold great interest. However, I may be a top to a partner if this was something they really wanted. I wouldn't take much pleasure in topping but rather from giving my Dom service. In the past I completely shunned switching because of the stigma attached with my size and nationality.

In the few years I've been on this 'kinky journey', people, mainly caucasians have assumed I'm a domme. To an extent, I think this is one reason why there aren't many African Americans in the lifestyle. Could be a reason why there isn't many 'pronounced' African American submissives because of the terrible stereotypes people take from mainstream media.

I wouldn't want to switch to a person to fulfill some racial based fantasy. I rather not perpetuate the stereotype of the 'big black woman whose gonna comes claim someone as her white bitch'. Granted, some Dommes are like that but it should be seen as more of their 'persona' not assumption it's a part of their culture.

Again, people draw from main media thinking ninety percent of the women who sub or bottom must be thin or have a 'pin up' girl figure. Even I have assumed that when I view a Dom/me's site or gallery, seeing only slender women. The interesting thing about being somewhat active in the scene (meaning attend social events, play parties, munches) is getting a more 'realistic' view of kinky people. Not every dom/me has tons of money and not every sub or slave is every so kind, graceful and humble.

Though I understand that for certain reason cannot be very active in the scene. Be it for professional, personal or otherwise, yet if you have the means, I advise attending a few events to see how those who practice kinky really live. I also suggest attending kink events different from your nationality. In the few that I know, none of the organization turn away people who are of a different nationality. The last thing the kink community needs (but has a lot of) is discrimination and everyone can do their part by opening their minds.